tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post7154734361579956006..comments2024-03-25T23:24:53.777-05:00Comments on Stranded in Chaos: Sometimes, I really hate being a parent.Sara Strandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02641499434694637445noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-23002984574531503832014-07-28T12:52:44.182-05:002014-07-28T12:52:44.182-05:00I agree with control being an issue. Some of it is...I agree with control being an issue. Some of it is that you don't want her to so she will do it. My daughter used to wet her pants and that turned out to be stress. I am a believer in picking your battles because that is what seemed to work best. My husband and daughter are both stubborn and neither will give an inch on anything. The more he pushes, the worse the outcome.<br />She may need to go to counseling. We took my daughter and it helped. She would talk to the psychologist and at the end talk to the three of us together and I think it helped us work together better and make things better for her.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051904118383493849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-75918279155251655802014-07-16T04:40:53.626-05:002014-07-16T04:40:53.626-05:00I feel like you mentioned in another post that she...I feel like you mentioned in another post that she's talked to a psychologist, but just in case, has she talked to a psychologist about it? It could be her way of getting attention, a fear of the bathroom…so many things, ya know? I saw a psychologist as a kid because of my parents divorce and as an adult, I definitely see the importance of it!Steffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13303065834307059932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-82833014992899653362014-07-15T20:29:09.439-05:002014-07-15T20:29:09.439-05:00Dear Sara, I admire you for your perseverence! I w...Dear Sara, I admire you for your perseverence! I wonder: if you let her live with the consequences of her choices, and not bail her out with dry clothes, sheets, etc, would that help her change this behavior? She is certainly getting tons of attention for it. Have you read the book "Children: The Challenge"? It is old, but excellent. All about "logical consequences." And i totally agree with the comment before mine... Let the other kids, teachers, etc, tell her how unacceptable this behavior is and she might decide it's worth it to stop. For now, the reward is worth the ickiness of being wet. I think the reward is watching her mom's head explode! If you take away that payoff for her (by ignoring the peeing) plus never fix the result with clean dry clothes, i really believe that it will fizzle out. No reward, lots of ickiness, kids telling her it's gross... Might work! You are soooo conscientious all the time, even "telling on yourself" when you lose it... You are really inspirational. Snazzytoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00604547507279299565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-85304719446541284362014-07-15T15:43:31.708-05:002014-07-15T15:43:31.708-05:00Maybe it's a control issue. Like, it's one...Maybe it's a control issue. Like, it's one thing she has the power to do or not do? Sounds weird but I've heard a lot of that with pee and poop issues. <br /><br />I used to wonder why anyone would ever not want to have kids. Now I know lol.Julie Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14827476441219850741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-51228664010267821652014-07-15T13:30:40.392-05:002014-07-15T13:30:40.392-05:00I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Maybe O...I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Maybe Olivia should talk to a neutral person about the potty issue.thotladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06877043721001181462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-70844378292258513642014-07-14T20:22:34.092-05:002014-07-14T20:22:34.092-05:00Oh my. It sucks you're still dealing with this...Oh my. It sucks you're still dealing with this. Does it still happen at school? Maybe she needs to hear it from someone other than you? Life Love & High Heelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17891080677181702969noreply@blogger.com