Sunday, September 25, 2011

KY Intimacy Experiment Day Two- It's Not Just About Sex (GIVEAWAY)

We're onto week two of the KY Intimacy Experiment and if you have no idea what I'm talking about, you should catch up.

Day One- Love Nest

The challenge for this day/week was basically be intimate outside of the bedroom. Taken from our workbook, "Studies show that successful relationships tend to have a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. Experts believe that the ratio should be 5 to 1: five positive interactions (hugging, holding hands, having a positive conversation) for every negative one (bickering, for example)."

Folks- I can tell you right now that Matt and I are (on average) a 3 to 2 ratio.... 3 negatives to 2 positives. Um... whoops.

But here's the truth. I feel really weird being all lovey dovey in front of our kids. The fact of the matter is that 90% of the time Matt and I are together, we've got the kids right there. The other 7% is spent sleeping and 3% is spent on quality time together. Um, that's ridiculous. So our struggle is definitely going to be to improve that. For the most part this week we did better than we usually did. We held hands, we cuddled on the couch, I watched Antiques Roadshow with him (despite wanting to gouge my own eyeballs out for entertainment value) and we snuck in hugs and kisses while I was making dinner. Our day time exercises were all about trying to improve our ratio.

Our night time exercises... straight up awkward. They were. I can't even lie, I started laughing. I think I have established that I have a hard time taking things serious because I feel stupid. Basically, we were to "face each other, look deep into each other's eyes and allow yourselves to melt into a close embrace." and continue doing so for awhile. Like, longer than comfortable. Then you were to try to have sex with your eyes open, which I don't think is weird, so we sailed through that part. But literally just laying there hugging... is weird. I don't know. I know I got drowsy at some point, Matt coughed, it was all very weird and to be honest- I didn't feel any closer to him after this exercise.
OK- so every Saturday night I will post about the KY Intimacy Experiment and offer you chances to win your own kit. At the end of the experiment I will put all of your entries from every single post into a bucket to win. So you are going to have a lot of chances to win... I highly encourage you to enter and spread the word. Here are your chances (and you MUST be a follower through GFC, and you MUST leave me your email address so if you win I can contact you!):

1. Comment on this post- what do you think your positive/negative ratio would be?
2. Share this on Twitter (leave separate comment)
3. Share this on Facebook (leave separate comment)
4. "Like" CouplesPlace on Facebook (leave separate comment)

Good luck!

I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review.


Ryan Adair said...

Omg. I loled so hard at the hugging thing.

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Shirley said...

I am going to tell you every freaking week how much I need this because Chris and I are only having about 5 interactions a day! No joke. And my ratio is like 3:2 positive:negative.

Ruth said...

I would have to say that we are 5 to 1. I think it is very healthy for kids to see their parents hug, kiss, or hold hands. But, I grew up seeing my parents do that so it is normal to me.

Ang said...

again, you've got my email. :)

Our ratio would be like 31:1 - Steve and I honest to god never fight or argue. We rarely disagree, but when we do, it takes a few minutes for us to talk our way through it.
YAY us.

I want to win this, badly, so pick me... or else.

Ang said...

Tweeted...I think my tweeting name is @aalstrup88 (but I don't really get twitter still, so who knows if that's my name)

ComfyMom~Stacey said...

I could do the hugging, if we skipped the looking deep into one another's eyes thing. Something about that long meaningful look always cracks me up & then he gets offended and I can't say "It not you. I do that with any guy. Or at least I did, 21 years ago, I'm just supposing it still holds true but not because I've tried it out, I swear." because then he gets more offended.
So I suppose it actually is him. Him and his easily offended senses.

Beverly said...

We are def 5:1. He tells me everyday that I'm beautiful and kisses me quite often. My youngest son tells us we're a little "gross" :)

Beverly said...

I tweeted about this weeks giveaway.