Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Why my vagina got angry this week.

Honestly, everybody has heard about Todd Akin's really unfortunate point of view about women in general, but more importantly how the birds and the bees work. 

I actually didn't see the original comment until some morning news show at my mom's were talking about it on Monday morning. When I first saw the female anchor with an appalled face and her hand to her mouth in shock, I knew I had to pay more attention. And so they played the comment again. “It seems to me, from what I understand from doctors, that’s really rare,” Mr. Akin said of pregnancies from rape. “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways to try to shut that whole thing down. But let’s assume that maybe that didn’t work or something: I think there should be some punishment, but the punishment ought to be of the rapist, and not attacking the child.” And then there was an Akin supporter who said something along the lines of he has never heard of a baby being conceived through rape. Really? Do you think maybe that's because a woman would be ashamed to report that? Rapes are under reported as it is, I'd think a woman would be less likely to tell people her child was a product of rape. Think of how the child would grow up knowing they weren't conceived out of love but rather, a disgusting violation and act of violence. 

I know, all of you with a vagina know exactly how I felt at that exact moment. First off, any women who has been pregnant, planned or not, knows that if the sperm has made it to the egg, whether you're ready or not or if you want that baby or not, you are pregnant. That my friends, is how the birds and the bees work. Your sperm and your eggs don't care if you were a willing participant in sex. 

Honestly I feel like this highlights everything that is wrong with Republicans. I mean, I get that some people are pro-life. And in most circumstances I understand that. Abortion shouldn't be used just because you made a bad choice in the heat of the moment. Now, if the woman was alone and wouldn't have a support system to help her, I get it. not everybody has the support system that a lot of us have. If you have a baby full of health defects, it's a choice some families have had to make and that's a difficult decision. But if you are a victim of rape and become pregnant as a product of that rape? How dare anyone, let alone a man, tell a woman that she needs to just have that baby and learn to love it? Really? Ironically, these are the same people who will often shun their children because they have the audacity to be gay. Because, how dare you be gay, just pray that shit away. 

I don't feel anyone has the right to make such a major decision on behalf of anyone. Raising a child is HARD even under the best circumstances, let alone if you were a single parent, have no support system, an inadequate job, no education, and nowhere to turn. I get so angry when I hear these people say all you need is love for your child. Sure, that's a big deal and you absolutely should have that. But you need money. You need resources, and some people just can't do it. So the Republicans want to ban this choice for women, set us back decades, and then what? Are we going to have an increase in abandoned babies? Dumpster babies? Is that worth it? 

But at the same time, they are against free birth control under ObamaCare. So, we won't give women the birth control to prevent unwanted pregnancies, but we'll also give them no recourse should they get pregnant. Awesome. Sounds legit.

And to top it all off, they want to effectively end welfare and make insane cuts and/or end Medicare. Um, ok. First off, if we have a bunch of pregnant teenage girls or women in whatever circumstance that they are not capable of raising a child well, and we get rid of the resources that would allow the child to grow up with food and shelter.... what do you think will happen? I can't imagine anything good is going to come of it. Then you want to get rid of Medicare? OK, so what are all of the old people supposed to do when they get old if they have no retirement from either working low paying jobs their entire life or losing it all in the stock market because banks are greedy and don't care about anyone other than themselves? Are we supposed to just let them starve? On the streets? That's not very Christian like. Aren't you supposed to help your fellow man?

I absolutely agree the entire welfare system needs to be looked at. I absolutely have a problem with women who have kids without participating baby daddies who carry Coach purses, their kids are dressed in expensive toddler clothes, they have big SUV's with expensive rims on it and they hand over their food stamp card.Yeah, there is absolutely something wrong with that. I feel like welfare should be a temporary help to people who absolutely need it. Maybe only allow it for a year with a year in between being able to receive it again. Something. I know of people who get welfare in Minnesota, then move to Wisconsin for awhile, and then basically hop around so they never run out. Hello- completely wrong and quite frankly, you should be charged with theft because that's basically what it is. You are stealing from taxpayers.

My problem with Republicans is that they make these sweeping ideas of how they think it should be without ever knowing what it's like to be dirt fucking poor and not knowing how you are going to feed your kids because your husband lost his job. None of these people have to worry about not having Medicare or Social Security available to them in the future because they are millionaires. Me? I would absolutely LOVE to not rely on either of those when I get older but guess what? My eight years of plugging away in my retirement fund is absolutely gone. My last statement said I have less than $500. It went from $25,000 to less than $500. Can the market re-surge and I re-coup? Maybe. I'm not hopeful, but at age 30 I'd by lying if I said I wasn't freaking the fuck out about this. If Matt were to get seriously injured or god forbid, die? I'd be fucked. I'd have to sell my house (hopefully) and move in with someone. These are the things I think about when I hear these people, and not just the politicians but actual citizens out in the world, rant about this stuff.

Thank god my birth control is free because paying for it is really difficult. Do you think I want to take a pill that makes me feel like the spawn of Satan for an entire week? Do you think I want to take a pill that adds a good 20 pounds to my ass because my hormones are jacked up? Um, no. Do you think if I had the $1500 just laying around (because insurance doesn't pay for it) to get Matt's vasectomy that I wouldn't hesitate to drop his off there tomorrow morning to snip his balls? Because I absolutely would and if I win the lottery that is the first thing we will do. Snip Matt's balls.

You may not love Obama. You may be a Bible banging, pew humping religious fanatic. You may be as pro-life, anti-welfare as they come but just remember this: just as we Democrats can't force you to love your fellow gay, abort a baby or apply for food stamps, you can't force us to conform to your way of doing. America is a democracy based on freedom. Freedom of choice, freedom of free thinking, and independent beliefs. I don't want you to believe in what I believe in just because it really is more Christian like to help your fellow man, but respect that others aren't as fortunate as you. Not all of us believe in your Jesus so don't force your Jesus rules on us. Not all of us have the opportunities that you have had. And I really hope you never have to know what it's like to worry about feeding your babies, paying your mortgage, or fear having to work when you're 85 to stay in your subsidized senior apartment. I don't wish that on anyone, but be respectful to the rest of us who face that reality every day and even those of us who have been there and worked steadily out of it.


Seana said...

Wow Sara.. So well written and concise. I hadn't really heard the complete story that brought this debate to light until I read your blog entry. You echo my thoughts on the whole thing.

Wow. How idiotic and self-centered can people be?? They don't look any farther than the edge of their own noses for reality apparently.


Carol N Wong said...

Wonderful response! I agree wholeheartedly with you. Rape does not come with a spermacide!! I remember going to the hospital a long time ago and being shocked. I saw a 12 girl, nine months pregnant by her stepfather. What about her?
That makes me cry. I wish that he could have seen that scared little girl for himself!!!!


Lin said...

Dude, I was so angry when I read what he'd said. Sometimes I wonder what the hell people think when they make idiotic statements such as this one. Ridiculous.