tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post6697617839749735522..comments2024-03-25T23:24:53.777-05:00Comments on Stranded in Chaos: I Know You CareSara Strandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02641499434694637445noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-82880525724121170952013-11-09T11:33:54.753-06:002013-11-09T11:33:54.753-06:00I used to feel that way a lot. It's odd but no...I used to feel that way a lot. It's odd but now I don't feel that way at all. Like EVER. It all kind of coincides with my starting Lose It, sticking to it (for the most part) and doing my running and going to the gym and stuff. I don't know why that made everything change for me. Maybe I was a touch depressed myself? I think maybe I have empowered myself? I'm not exactly sure but the change came from me, I know that. Julie Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14827476441219850741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-30079035007379591442013-11-07T19:41:36.933-06:002013-11-07T19:41:36.933-06:00It seems like everyone around me is either in your...It seems like everyone around me is either in your situation or simply getting divorce, and as someone who has only been married two years, (together for 6) it scares me! It makes me feel like all marriages are doomed. But your determination is inspiring. Before I go married I was having a hard time with my now husband, so I moved in with my grandparents for a month to get away from the relationship and evaluate myself. I talked to my grandparents about how I loved him so much, but at the moment I just didn't like him. They asked why I wanted to be with him in the first place, and if I thought that person was still who he was. Of course I said he was! My grandparents, who have been married for 45 years, told me that there are times when you simply don't like the person you are with, but if you stick with them and remind yourself why you loved them, things would get good again. My grandma said sometimes it could be weeks, or sometimes it would be years, but eventually the relationship turns around. I think that's the best advice I've ever gotten and days when I simply don't like my husband, I remind myself that someday, I will again! Fortunately, it only lasts a day or two now, but hopefully it's something I'll remember if it's ever longer than that. Steffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14387523324618066104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-57622723213033859302013-11-07T08:16:18.253-06:002013-11-07T08:16:18.253-06:00You know, we are so similar it's scary. I am ...You know, we are so similar it's scary. I am so glad we were matched up as pen pals so long ago, otherwise I would never have met you. I feel like my marriage is super similar to yours - it sounds exactly the same. It's nice to know that I'm not alone, so I thought I'd let you know that you're not alone either.Kattrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17468694888034192536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-63764282929056019052013-11-06T21:55:10.265-06:002013-11-06T21:55:10.265-06:00Sometimes I don't know how my husband and I ke...Sometimes I don't know how my husband and I keep going. But, we do. I can't say without a doubt that Matt will change. But, I have seen my guy say and do things that I would never have imagined he'd do 10 years ago. He says he is sorry which he never did before. For anything. Just one example. But, it's a biggie! Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051904118383493849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414435776825765041.post-72483340345134113462013-11-06T14:10:40.345-06:002013-11-06T14:10:40.345-06:00As someone with depression, I can tell you he most...As someone with depression, I can tell you he most likely tries to be anything BUT selfish. However, when you're struggling so hard to just stay afloat, it ends up seeming that way. I often recognize that I am being selfish, but in reality, I'm just trying really hard to stay semi-functional - hold down a job, pay my mortgage, take care of myself and my pets, etc. Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06397290154377903947noreply@blogger.com