Saturday, June 14, 2008

4 Years!

They say the first seven years of marriage are the hardest, so we now officially have 4 down. :) Our anniversary was June 12 and we did nothing. Ok, so Matt got me a card and 3 roses (he tried for four, but just didn't remember). But we had fajitas at home, played with the kids and were sleeping by 9. I guess that's how it's going to be for awhile. Every time we try to do something on our anniversary it ends up being a bust- this was the first year we gave up.
Our first year, I was about 6 months pregnant with Olivia and we tried to go out to eat. Well, by the time we got to the restaurant, we had 30 minutes to order, eat and pay because they were closing. AND, I got really sick off the food so that ended that. Our second year, Olivia was like 9 months old or so, and my parents came to babysit her so we could go out to dinner & a movie. Well, we got to the theatre parking lot and got into a HUGE fight over something so dumb I can't even remember. SO, that evening ended about 20 minutes after it began and we were home and didn't talk the rest of the night. Last year, we had all the intentions of doing something romantic and fun but were in the middle of a home addition. Not only did Matt not budget or plan like he should have- but we were BROKE and were trying to come up with extra money for things he didn't even think about. Not to mention it wasn't "on time", so I was stressed out about my family coming a few weeks later and not having anywhere for people to sleep or eat. I think all of last June was a never ending fight over his lack of organizational skills. :)
So much has happened in four years that it really does feel like a battle of wills some days, but then other days it's really great and fun. We work hard at our marriage, god knows we've had some serious struggles and things to work through, but we try and it's the best we can do. One day though, I'd REALLY like to go on a real date with my husband, preferrably before the kids move out. :)


allena said...

Happy (belated) Anniversary! We are going out Friday night to celebrate ours, but for the actual night of our anniversary, Jody had school until late, and we went to bed early. But we did exchange cards that night. So, as long as you at least acknowledge the fact that you've gotten through another year, that's what matters most! : )

Sheryl said...

Sara, This year we celebrated our 11th year of marriage and we actually went out on a dinner date!!!! Now you know how old our kids are.....20, 18 and 11...LOL!!!! On our way home from dinner, we picked up DQ for dessert for us and the kids and we came home and watched a movie with the kids!!!! It might take a few years to have an "actual date" with your husband but the important thing is never go to bed mad at each other and always tell each other you love each other!!!!!
Happy Belated Anniversary!!!!